There is just no way around it. As much as I might like to increase, life with God is about me decreasing. Just ask John the Baptist, he had it all in perspective. Although I'm sure it was hard, even for him, to keep it that way. The rule of the Kingdom is simple: I must decrease. It is not an option, it is a must. Otherwise I will just be in his way.
My desire for attention must decrease, that I might cast all the attention on him. My desire to be great must decrease, that I might make him great. My desire for affirmation and acclaim must decrease, that he might be affirmed and lifted up above all. My desire to have impact must decrease, that he might actually have eternal impact. He is the one who is essential here, not me.
You see, the bride does not belong to me (any more than she belonged to John), she belongs to Jesus. He is her groom. He is her lover. Her desire must be for Him, not for me. I am just the one waiting and watching and listening for him to come, so that I might help join their hands in an eternal embrace of love. And then I must step aside.